It’s Just What I Thought…

This article is a gem.

Read with an open mind because some of it might make you reconsider how you think.

You are not right or wrong.  When a joke begins with ‘A guy comes into a room’…what does he look like in our mind?

Tell me what you think in my Step Out! Group.

No shame, because until we get real about Race, we are just spinning our wheels.

How Medically Sound Is This?

According to The Garden City Telegram out of Kansas, (R) Rep. Stephen Alford made some interesting observations about Blacks and drugs.  I don’t think he quoted any medical or psychological studies to support his deductions, it was all just his own comments and opinions. He states, “What was the reason why they [outlawed drugs]?” Alford asked a crowd. “One of the reasons why — I hate to say it — is the African Americans, they were basically users and they basically responded the worst off to those drugs. It’s because of their character makeup — their genetics and that. And so basically what we’re trying to do, is we’re trying to do a complete reverse of the people not remembering what’s happened in the past. So basically, I’m against marijuana all the way through.”

When will people stop making wild unproven statements about others who don’t look like them?  This is just another stereotype and prejudice that becomes fact for some people once they hear it without being backed by factual evidence.  Especially when they come from people in authority.  People who make these comments may believe it is fact because they heard it from someone they considered an authority or are knowledgeable about African-Americans, which is not an excuse.  Who knows how many times and places Rep. Alford has made these statements or some similar.  This is a story that was not prominent on any of the major news wires like many other stories on stereotypes and prejudice.

It is a shame that people in authority believe they can say anything about anyone without any consequences. They totally disregard how their words and thoughts affect others who receive them.  

Think before you speak. No one group of people are all the same.  All German Shepherds are dogs but not all dogs are German Shepherds.  No group of people deserve to be disparaged because of someone else’s ignorance.

Let’s work to understand each other on a deeper level than our appearances. Only then will we embrace our differences and #breakthroughhate. Change will come from the meaningful connections we make with others who are different than ourselves. And when comments are made, like the ones made by Rep. Alford, we can shake our heads, state the facts, and move forward in continuing to love one another.

Ready to spark some change? #StepOut today.

Learning to #StepOut and #BreakThroughHate Together

A big thanks to all who joined me today on Facebook to learn to #StepOut and #BreakThroughHate! If you missed me live, check it out now!

My #StepOut movement excites me, because I know it is an easy and accessible way for people to learn to communicate with and in turn learn from those who are different from themselves. The more we make meaningful connections with people who we otherwise would not know, the more we get to understand different cultures, backgrounds, Races, ethnicity, genders…. the list goes on and on. Once we connect, we learn that our differences are cause to unite us, not divide.

I hope you will join me again Tuesday, 2/06, as we switch up the time to 8PM (EST). I’m enjoying this journey with you and know we are making a difference, one STEP at a time.

See you Tuesday!


It Doesn’t Get Much Better Than This!

Andrew Anglin, a popular white supremacist and founder of neo-Nazi website The Daily Stormer, made an interesting blog post in Feb 2017, in which he states that, “Donald Trump wants to remove us from undue federal scrutiny by removing ‘white supremacists’ from the definition of ‘extremism,’” he said. “Donald Trump is setting us free. It just… It just couldn’t ever get any better than this, I am telling myself. But I know that it is just going to keep getting better.”

With that type of thinking it is easy to understand so many incidents of racial unrest.  It happens in some disturbing ways and some of these are not making it to mainstream reporting. They don’t all have to be in the New York Times or on CNN, but they should be tracked somehow or else these incidents become acceptable, everyday behavior and thought processes.  We’ve been in those dark times before and there is no reason for the past to reoccur, when we’ve worked so hard to make progress.

How do we keep moving forward?  Let’s get to know each other on a deeper level than what we look like or who we worship. Let’s not allow negative, repressive comments or thought processes to hold us back from what we hope to accomplish, but rather, battle against negative, divisive ideologies through understanding and love.  Learn and grow through conversations with substance.  Contemporary Christian music artist Mandissa says it best, ‘We all bleed the same…so tell me why we’re divided.’

Are you ready to be a part of the movement and #StepOut today?


First Facebook Live, A Success!

A huge thank you to the hundreds that joined my first Facebook live! To #breakthroughhate with all of you is a privilege, and we’re just getting started! Join me again next Tuesday at 2PM as we tackle some more tough topics. For those of you that missed it, check it out here:

Again, thank you! We’re doing this together, one step at a time!


Join Me Live on Facebook!

I’m Tresté Loving – founder and CEO of the Institute for Racial Equity, the premier training organization uniting law enforcement professionals and the communities they serve.

Race, division, prejudice and stereotypes have been at the forefront of our news headlines for far too long… and I’m looking to spark some change. I challenge you to join me live, on Facebook, Tuesday, Jan 16th at 2PM (est), as we talk about some tough issues.

Come learn about how our differences actually unite us, as we #breakthroughhate together, one meaningful connection at a time.

See you then!

Race and Truth

Race.  A human contrived classification to explain our differences.

From all I have read and experienced our biological make-up is the same. Our natural variations are from the geological regions in the world. There are some scientific reasons we are varying colors and that has to do with the equator, not status.  Obviously the closer to the equator the darker the complexion (and it is the same for the poles). These facts are lost on the majority of people and it can blatantly been seen in the way  Race has been defined.

Unfortunately, Race is used as an excuse to hate.  Ignorance of what Race is and the and history behind it is what divides us. We develop ill-conceived perceptions and notions that warp our worldview and opinions of those who are different.

All those things can be overcome if we desire. How? Let’s start a real conversation about each other with one another. Common ground will prevail.  Talk to a person you never thought about having a conversation with (that’s right, the person who doesn’t look like you!).  One question is all it takes.

Step Out! is an open and honest world-wide movement, encouraging individuals to ask pertinent questions to those who are different than themselves. The goal? To recognize that our differences actually unite us, instead of divide.

When engaging within this group, our main and only rule is to be respectful.  If not, you will be kicked out.  Use everyday questions to learn about those who don’t look like you, making every effort to really listen and understanding their response before commenting.

Be bold and step out by connecting with someone who is different than you, today!

Let’s #BreakThroughHate, together, one meaningful connection at a time!

Be Bold. Step Out!

Cultural mindsets, deep-seeded hatred, unconscious biases and profiling tendencies. These things are rooted from within, a part of our daily thought processes and every-day perceptions. They didn’t happen overnight. Each stereotype or bent towards discrimination was planted a little at a time, until it permeated the way in which we view the world around us.
Biases, racism, prejudice, profiling… we all (yes, you too!), engage in and hold onto stereotypes and different, varying levels that affect the way in which we communicate with others.

What if we were to break those?

What if, we recognized one another’s differences, and rather than view them as a means to divide, found them to be a means to unite us?

We are all human after all, with a heart bent towards love, and a desire to feel valued and cared for.

Can that bring us closer?

Can our basic desires of wanting the best for ourselves and our families, our faith, our wanting to laugh, live and process change to the fullest invoke a sense of togetherness?

I think it can.

Infact, I know it can and believe it will.

My new movement, Step Out, has started up on Facebook. It is a group comprised of people of different ethnicities and backgrounds across our country, placing themselves in a position for open and honest dialogue.


By partaking in discussions with others who are different, I am certain people will begin to embrace those differences as a means to unify.

Will you join us?

Be bold and Step Out, today!

Let’s #BreakThroughHate together, one meaningful connection at a time.

Are Your Kids Rats?


I didn’t think so. I don’t know any parents who consider their kids rats.  Why would someone call a child, ANY child, rats?  Who indeed…

In Jacksonville, FL a mother of a fourth grader made a complaint about her daughter’s teacher who
allegedly called her and other Black children rats.

Very few of us are immune to hate.

We all have prejudices.

Teachers have a strong impact on child’s socialization, and unfortunately, not a good one in this case (if true).

Socialization is the process of passing culture from one generation to a younger generation.  We’re all socialized by the people and things in our lives, including teachers. Imagine what the other fourth graders thought when she allegedly called the Black students rats and allegedly said the rats would infest the classroom.  

Think about the power a teacher has over his or her students.

Think about the power we each have when speaking around a child.

Think about what it is we say and do… Do we promote inclusion or do we promote hate?

I know for me, when I was in elementary school I totally trusted what my teachers told me as being absolute truth.  As well as my parents, extended family, those in my community…

What are you teaching someone today?

May we teach the next generation to celebrate our differences.
They are, in fact, what unite us.

Dangerous Liasions

Police Departments and Sheriff Offices encounter internal and external challenges each day, such as use of authoritative power and profiling, as well as patrols in highly sensitive areas. Finding a resolution to these problems and others can be frustrating. Consultants are always readily available, giving the issue a glance and offering a solution deemed “perfect”. These methods are typically “off the shelf” and easy to implement. But an “off the shelf” product is just that—”off the shelf”— providing a one size fits all fix with little or no customization.

Unfortunately, there is a gamble with an off the shelf product because it may or may not provide the real solution required. That creates a dangerous liaison, because challenges can continue and worsen. So what should a leader look for when searching for the right solutions for law enforcement professionals? The leader needs an Outside Trusted Advisor (OTA), who has the organization’s requirements, strategy and desires at the forefront,  not their own personal business agenda.

There are three areas to be clear about to ensure the OTA is a good fit. First, how accurate is the data collected? Next, do solutions support and align with the departments strategy and culture? Finally, can leaders authentically and totally support the solutions?

First, gathering the right data will start the process of getting to the right solution. Generally speaking, consulting firms have a plethora of off the shelf items that collect different types of data which may or may not be what the leader desires. An OTA will adjust their process to collect accurate, unbiased data to formulate an effective solution.

Next, it is critical that answers are precise—adapted to fit the organization’s culture since alignment with the organization’s vision is key. An off the shelf product can generalize adaptation but it will be difficult to align precise solutions to any strategy the organization uses for success.

Finally, leaders will authentically and enthusiastically support a process they know is personalized to meet their needs. A customized product facilitated by an OTA helps transform an organization from great to phenomenal.

A Dangerous Liaison can leave an organization even worse than it was to begin with. Be wise. Use an Outside Trusted Adviser to develop customized methods, guiding your department towards lasting changes and transformative growth.

If you want to experience something amazing, contact me at  757.748.2590 or email: I’m a Racial Divide Expert, dedicated to developing the strategies you need to effectively serve.

Tresté Loving: Let’s #BreakThroughHate together.®